Life is a camera, Face it with a smile
A smile is like saying hello without any words.

Monday, 4 July 2016

Swathi's love rejection

A tragedy worse than the death of Swathi, is the reason behind it. A young man went to the extent of murdering a girl who rejected his proposal and degraded him. Perhaps, a rejection in itself was probably sufficient to ignite a killing instinct in this psychotic man. However, it could also be that it was the fact that Swathi has cited his career, income, lack of education as a reason to reject him and verbally abused him for having such thoughts.

Love for a person comes naturally. It is not based on social standing, income or caste. In the same way, when you reject someone’s love, spare some thought to the fact that they are a human being. Don’t destroy their confidence, don’t degrade them, and don’t abuse them. Politely reject. Don’t put them down for not having enough education, money, or status. Think about it. How insulting would it be and how frustrated would they feel that it is material things that are standing in the way of love. Of course it doesn’t justify murder. But, it isn’t right either. When rejecting a love proposal, give reasons based on why you can’t love that person. Don’t give reasons why that person is not of a lovable material.

Tuesday, 29 December 2015

My miscarriage liberated me

It made me respect all the women who give birth. All the women who abort their child. All the women who try to become pregnant. All the women who have a miscarriage.

My miscarriage taught me the capabilities of my body. It taught me how to appreciate my resilient body. It awakened me to how much we don’t know. I don’t know why my miscarriage happened.

I was able to own and be more confident in my skin and body. Parts of your body that no one would see, were witnessed by many. There’s no place left for shyness. It also made me salute the doctors and nurses. They do a great job, seeing you at your worst and still smiling.

My miscarriage proved to me that drugs have played a key part in women’s liberation.
 I work in the health industry regulating drugs. The money mindedness of the pharmaceutical sector made me anti-drugs. I would resist taking drugs at all cost. But, only after giving birth to a still born did I understand that drugs have made life so much easier, especially for women.

The amount of women who would have died from child birth has been greatly reduced because of drugs. Without drugs, I could not have given birth to a 5 month still born without surgery. The pain that I felt was also greatly reduced because of drugs.

I am so lucky to have been born in this age and era where drugs are available. What would women in my situation have done 200years ago? 

Thursday, 2 October 2014

Why say 'sorry' when you don't need to?

I haven't blogged in ages. Perhaps full time work got the better of me. Or living out of home, got me occupied.

Anyways, I have a message to convey. This is why I am now blogging.

This morning, I walked into my boss's office. As I always do, when interrupting my extremely busy boss, I said 'Sorry [boss's name], can I speak to you'. My boss stopped me and said, 'you do not need to apologise to speak to me. Just say my name and ask if you can speak'.

I agreed. But I also reflected on it. As a person, I probably apologise and say sorry way too often. If someone says excuseme, I would reply 'sorry', and then move out of the way. If some one told me to do something differently, I would say 'sorry', and follow their instructions.

In many social circumstances, by way of politeness we have accustomed ourselves to say sorry. It is actually not necessary. By apologising, we are agreeing that we are in the wrong and conveying our repentence for a past action.

Thinking about it, why on earth would I apologise to my boss to ask her something, when I have to do it anyway. Am I apologising for the interruption, but I am not really sorry.

When we overuse a word, the word loses its significance. One such word is "sorry". Use it sparingly but at the right occasions. It and you will be valued more.

Apologise only when you truly mean it and need it. There are other words in the English vocab. 

Thursday, 9 February 2012

Interview Experience

And in the midst of job searching;
Here a few interview questions that I got asked for a Volunteering position at a Community Legal Centre. The thing that was unique about the interview was the fact that they told me that this 'wasn't an interview, but just a chat'.

Tell me about yourself.

What attribute would you require as a volunteer?

What makes someone vulnerable and disadvantaged?

What are the most important skills you can use in this firm?

Have you ever been involved in policy development?

What steps do you take to do legal research?

What are your interests outside university?

Doyou have any questions?

That's all I can recall. I'm sure there were a couple of more questions.
I'm not sure if I did well. Personally I think I did really bad. But I got the position! :D